Since I believe it’s time to have a heart to heart conversation with you, I am writing a letter to self. I know that you have been hurt by people you cared about and also by people you didn’t care about at all. People disappointed you and you also felt that you disappointed yourself. You thought your life would turn out one way and boy did it ever surprise you.
I know that you have worked hard in both your professional and personal life and you should feel proud of yourself. You wanted to be a good wife , a loving mother, and a conscientious employee and you were. You haven’t heard this often, but I want to tell you that “I am proud of you!”
I know these past few years have not been easy for you. To name two major challenges you had to overcome were your divorce after 30+ years of marriage and a recent termination from a job that you worked at for 10+ years.
I am sure your heart felt like it was broken into one million pieces. Perhaps it felt like someone took a hammer and literally smashed it. I am happy to say that I think the shattered pieces are slowly coming together and you are in the process of healing; your pain is diminishing.
I know that sometimes you ache when someone doesn’t treat you the way you believe you should be treated. You are a person who deserves to be treated with respect, kindness, caring, and love. Yes, I said love! I know that it’s scary to open your heart again and seek out people who will accept you for who you are.
I know that sometimes rejection hurts. However, when you realize that the person who rejected you wasn’t meant to be in your life anyway it makes it easier to accept. I know that sometimes you feel so alone and miss having that one special person who “has your back”. Please realize that you are not alone and there are people who love you and maybe there are even a few people who like you.
You need to be less critical of yourself and like who you are. Heck, love who you are! You need to believe that you are deserving of everything good. You are deserving of love, happiness, health, and prosperity. You are even deserving of a hot, sexy, sixty year old companion! Is that an oxymoron?
Know that you are good enough. Yes, you heard me, I said good enough. You are kind, intelligent, loving, and willing to give of self.
OK, maybe you’re not the typical woman; maybe you don’t like to cook and if I was going to revisit your cooking mishaps there would be way too many to list. However, you are a person who enjoys working, learning, and achieving your personal and professional goals. And own the fact that you are a person who definitely does not enjoy cooking. These are some of the characteristics that make you unique. Why would you ever want to be typical or ordinary?
The current path that you are on is not typical or ordinary but it is the correct path for you at this point in time. I realize that sometimes this is difficult to believe especially when you are experiencing challenging situations. I am sure there have been times when you’ve asked yourself “what did I do to deserve this”?
Remember that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. I recognize that you may wonder how did you ever get on this road? Did your internal GPS steer you wrong? When is it going to say “recalculate”?
Perhaps your road contained a few speed bumps that you’ve driven over and even one or two massive potholes. At times, the road of life is not a smooth one. Five years from now when you look back on your journey, you will realize that those bumps in the road helped you grow, leave your comfort zone, and begin anew.
Those unanticipated, life changing experiences have made you stronger, more resilient, and more confident because you realize that you can cope with the various situations that you are faced with.
Life is about contrast; happy and sad, sickness and health, heartache and love. If you didn’t experience sadness, you wouldn’t fully experience and appreciate those moments of sheer joy. Be grateful for every single moment because there is meaning in it all.
Wishing you happiness, health, and love!
P.S. Would it be worthwhile for you, the reader, to write a letter to yourself? What would it say?